The ethics of who may handle the body or its excremental and other bodily discharges are never neutral but charged with kinship boundaries. Kinship ties structure expectations and obligations around caregiving, where individuals outside the kinship network, such as daughters-in-law, may not be expected to take on intimate care duties. Although part of the family, a daughter-in-law cannot take care of their immobile mother-in-law or see their nakedness. Here, care is an intimate practice shaped by social relations and patients’ experiences of chronic illness. The idiom of mutorwa reframes care—a stranger’s labour must be compensated.my daughter constantly travels for her community health work. Do you know who will feed, bathe, and take my soil out? Their daughter-in-law. This is unacceptable! She is a mutorwa (stranger). Where do I get the cow to compensate her if she touches my soil and my blood? I would rather die here. I am not alone, as you can see (pointing to the graveyard); my other children are over there.
Published: 11/07/2025